You know, some things you just KNOW, inherently, that they are bad, evil, perverted, etc. Other times, though, something may seem good and fine to you which is bad or offensive to someone else. Don’t you hate it when you do something without realizing that it’s actually bad?
I remember a time when I was itty bitty (yes, I really do remember this, though it is a bit vague), I had been talking with my dad in the kitchen of our old house. I said something (not sure what word) and before I knew it I was bent over the counter, Dad giving me a spanken and telling me to never ever say that again. I was so confused. I didn’t realize that whatever I had said was bad, but apparently I had offended Dad 😛
There’s a girl I know who was raised under strict conditions, with critisism very predominant in her life, directed at her especially from her mother. Now, she critisizes and judges all the time, but apparently she doesn’t think anything of it. Personally, it drives me crazy to hear some kind of judgement or other every other sentence, so I was going raving mad. Luckily, I have a lot of self-restraint, and so I resisted the (very strong) urge to clap my hand over her mouth and tell her to stop judging me all the time.
The thing is, though, she truly didn’t realize that it was bad. She thought it was cute or whatever, but it really drives people away. I was debating whether to tell her that this particular habit was not effective in cultivating friendships, but I didn’t want to injure her feelings (something she had no restraint in doing towards me), so I just didn’t say anything.
So just think twice before you say something, guys. Sometimes something that you think is perfectly fine may be offensive to someone else, but don’t be afraid to express your opinion. Just make sure that you phrase it so that it doesn’t look like an intentional jab at someone.